I am late in posting the article … because I decided to
change the article at the last moment. As I have already mentioned this is
about real world around me, this is something that made me change the article
& write new one.
We are a big family. My paternal cousins must be more than
50 in number and then their spouses & children add the strength. Being such big
family, it’s obvious that everybody is not equally attached to each other; but
we cousins have a good rapport for sure between all of us. Childhood days
allowed us to meet each other in summer vacations and on occasions like
weddings & other family functions. The age afterwards stole this luxury.
The frequency of meeting reduced while we entered colleges & then the jobs.
This cousin of mine was thus insisting on planning a big
family meet since last couple of years. It was his idea to meet at our native
place for at least couple of days. Every time we met he asked us when we would
plan this get-together. He also offered all the service that was needed to plan
this meet. We of course wanted this to happen soon; but whenever he talked
about the meet, we would have some or the other excuse ready. We would promise
him to take time out for planning & execution & would easily say, “Dada,
we have all our life left. We will meet soon. “He would just smile & the
topic would end this way.
Last week, he left home not to return again. We lost him in
road accident. He has started his journey in the different world. We are still
here and thought of meeting him remains the thought itself. Now how much we
repent does not matter. Over the week, his voice I hear which says,” See, I tried
to meet so many times.” Now even if, we cousins, meet thousands of times in
family meet, he would not be there with us. We will miss him & will not get
his company. We can’t see him anymore. We can’t get that cozy hug again.
Life keeps teaching something or the other, sometimes in
weird ways though. Or perhaps we are unable to learn when it gives
opportunities to learn in good ways. I have now learnt that I have to meet my
loved ones often. I have to listen to my heart when it tells to have a word
with our own people. I have learnt that we can neglect the inner voice very
easily but then we pay the price & huge one. I have learnt that we can’t be
sure when death will take us apart.
So, don’t make the same mistake I did. Whenever your heart
tells you to meet someone, to talk to someone…… understand THIS IS THE TIME …
THIS IS THE MOMENT… we never know what life would be the next moment……
Thanks for sharing such personal thing with us....may be all will surely act on this...!!!
ReplyDeletereally heart touching. we dont get time express our love,,affection towards our near and dear ones. it occupies a lot of space innour heart but not in brain. we take our near one as granted sometime . and keep postponing . you have correctly pointed out .it is important to take out time for the things which looks too small or too simple
ReplyDeleteVery touching . As this is too personal , it is universal too . At least we need to keep attending Weddings and all ceremonies , may it be on weekdays also . In this case , we need not to do explicit get together plannings.Relations are essential things...
ReplyDeletePriority Keeps changing ...ESSENTIAL things doesn't.
Nice One :)
ReplyDeleteVery touching!! And its so true, not only about human relations but about so many little things, that give us pleasure like taking a leisurely walk. Sometimes I wonder what is holding us from doing what we really wish to do??
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ReplyDeleteAvinash has said it. Yes, its touching, its universal ........ that's why I try to attend as many functions as I can.
ReplyDeleteFrom my personal experience I can say that, yes it's really hard to plan and bring people together for a get together like event, even for few hours and that too on weekends. I found that, if you attend other functions like weddings, poojas, receptions etc., you will definitely get a chance to meet people, though not all of them at a time.
We all know that (few people may differ with this opinion), behind most of the excuses there is always a "M" factor (Here I assume that you know what does that M stands for) - directly or indirectly.
Sometimes, try to put this M at little lower priority and relations at higher than that of M.
So people be instinctive, impulsive some times ............... because you can't plan everything ............. rather don't try to plan everything.
Very touching!! And its 100% true, not only about human relations but about so many small things, that give us happiness. I really don’t know what that is holding us behind. Is it our ego or M ? or something else…
ReplyDeleteWe always try to postpone the things.. and always tells other wait time will come. In my opinion time never tells I am coming… it always running. So whenever you will get little time please share and meet.
Its not only your cousin… it might be ours…